Date J120408 - Bundle of Nerves

Today was a lunch date with one of the guys I met through speed dating. He was the only guy that kept in touch with me; all those other guys have disappeared, but whatever. I don't give a shit about a stranger rejecting me. Anyway, it didn't take long to realize that my date was nervous. I teased him by asking if he kept in touch with the other girls from the speed date. It turns out that he didn't match up with anyone else.

So, I was his only match. Oh shit. Pressure!

Poor guy. I just couldn't get him to relax and it's such a shame. He'd be totally do-able if he just had some confidence in himself. I also think he might be self conscious about his acne and I completely empathize because I had horrible, debilitating acne all the way through college.

I learned something on today's date. I realized that to be successful at dating you have to believe that you do have something to bring to the table, that we all have something valuable and interesting to share. It also dawned on me that there are guys out there who don't have the ability, yet, to charm the whole room. Not all guys are the alpha male. And there will be certain situations where I am the alpha. I am the catch.

It takes practice to go out and meet people. And that would be my advice to all the shy, nervous, inexperienced guys out there. Get out there, tigers! Rawr!