The Second Chance...

Recently my girlfriend G and her bf broke up. She was devastated. You see, she's the type of girl who needs her self-worth validated by a man. I was certain she would never break up with him. She needs him too much; any man too much. So, I was shocked at the break up.

I thought for sure she'd do anything to make it work.

And I guess I was right because she's going to give it another go with the guy. I can't hold that against her. I did the same with the Canadian. But now that she's back together with him, I can't help but ask...

Did she learn anything about herself?

Here's a dear friend of mine who can't even see how fantastic she is. Who has just barely scrapped the surface of what she's capable of. She's afraid unless she has someone (ie: a guy) reinforce her. I bet she wouldn't have been so afraid to show off her 112lbs frame at the beach if her bf was around. I just watch her end up with these insecure, relationship inexperienced boys. Then she complains that they don't want the relationship to progress; they have trouble communicating; she constantly has to validate them...I wonder if she'll ever get it.

You act insecure, you attract insecure.

She says she wishes she could be more like me - adventurous, risk-taking, etc. What's stopping her? Nothing. Anything she believes is a barrier is an illusion. It's all a choice. I have (unfounded) hang-ups, too, but I hope I'm pushing through my fears to be a stronger person.

If everything works out, then that's wonderful. It means there was some sort of transformation between the two and they've become stronger for it. It's not for me to tell her what to do, what to think, what to realize from her experiences. That's her own discovery.

But I can't help, but think that this was the same friend who encouraged me, everytime, to dump the guy. It doesn't seem fair somehow...