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2010 is Here

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Fri, 01 Jan 2010 23:13:48 -0800

It's a new year. So strange. A new beginning and yet everything stays the same. I was talking to BFF about how everything moves so fast and so slow at the same time.

Deep, philosophical conversations are best made over the phone and after Christmas Day.

I was talking to a co-worker about how far we've come from where we were last year. At this time last year I was with The Canadian and contemplating how I could continue to be with him. Now I feel like I'm with the man I was supposed to end up with all along. My co-worker was on the road to being engaged and now he's a single bachelor enjoying his free time.

I miss being single. I miss setting my own time and agenda. I miss not having to be accountable to anyone but myself. I miss being a crazy, carefree single lady, using then flipping off the unworthiest of men. I miss being reckless because I could be. I miss being skinny.

When I was single I felt like the bravest of women.

BUT I love having a partner in crime. I love that I have this guy who's obliged to have sex with me on a regular basis (and there haven't been any objections from Him). I love sharing my adventures with Him and discovering every detail about Him and revealing stuff about me.

I still feel brave, but in an entirely different way.

So, my resolution this year (in addition to my regular resolutions like get/stay skinny and conquer pole dancing)...

Be Brave.

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This Year to Save Me from Tears

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Fri, 25 Dec 2009 10:25:59 -0800

I think this song is appropriate for my holiday this year. Seasons Greetings everyone. Let's keep dating in 2010!

Wham - Last Christmas

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Us

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 16:09:30 -0800

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Tonight I put up a photo of Us in my apartment. I took the one of me and The Canadian out of the frame. On any other occasion I would have hid that photo away, but this time I tore it up.

That relationship was broken and now, so is the memory.

It's a new Us from now on.

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Canadian Nightmares

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:27:30 -0800

Last night I had a nightmare about The Canadian. He showed up and started pestering me, begging me to come back and that he loved me all along. I just kept pushing him away and saying, "Get away from me! It's too late."

I know exactly why I dreamt of him too. Because of this. And maybe because around this time last year The Canadian and I were planning our New Year's escape.

I was talking to my stylist about why He stands out from all the other guys I've dated/had a fling with. The most important - He wants to be with me. That's it. In the past I've always been attracted to the guys who, yes, like me but for one reason or another can't be with me. Let's list it out, shall we?

Former Work Crush - couldn't date me because we work together
DK - couldn't date me because he didn't believe in defining relationships and wasn't around anyway
The Canadian - couldn't date me because of his own midlife crisis and he's too caught up in wanting to have a "perfect relationship". Long distance is not perfect.

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Lady Gaga: Afraid of Intimacy or Sex? | Sex and the 405

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Thu, 10 Dec 2009 21:05:33 -0800

Lady Gaga: Afraid of Intimacy or Sex? | Sex and the 405

http://sexandthe405.com/lady-gaga-afr...

Your love is nothing I can’t fight, can’t sleep with the man who dims my shine. I’m in the bedroom with tissues and when I know you’re outside banging but I won’t let you in. ‘Cause it’s a hard life, with love in the world and I’m a hard girl–loving ...

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Cougar Cruise!

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 20:01:23 -0800

Perez Hilton: Cougar Cruise!

http://perezhilto...

The first cruise aimed at older women interested in younger men, just left San Diego this morning! For three nights, sexually charged fifty-somethings will try to get their hands on equally sexually charged twenty-somethings.

I love this idea in spirit. In practice, let me tell you - all singles cruises are cougar cruises. Sure it's not organized or advertised as such, but the demographic for the ladies on a singles cruise sways a bit older. I was the youngest one when I went on my first cruise at 26. In general the singles cruises sway older for both sides.

It's a geriatric free-for-all on the high seas.

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The Baby Twilight Zone

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Mon, 07 Dec 2009 12:42:34 -0800

This weekend I went to my first baby shower...and it wasn't even my baby.

There are two types of women: the ones with biological clocks and the ones without. And this has nothing to do with an age milestone. Even as a child playing games I wasn't interested in being a "mom" or having babies. Sure, I played a version of Muppet Babies with my stuffed animals, but I play Aunt Dating LA. Not mom.

So, this baby shower was already uncomfortable for me. I just can't relate on any level to babies and being a mom or wanting to be a mom. Add to my own apprehension the fact that this baby shower was for His best friend who is expecting his first. I was meeting some of His friends for the first time...AT A BABY SHOWER!

For the rest of the weekend we were surrounded by babies. Babies at the movie theater. Babies at dinner. Baby stuff all over the mall. Well, okay. It's a mall so there's going to be a baby store or two.

We haven't had the baby talk, but the uber-presence of BABIES warranted some kind of mention. Honestly, I haven't even decided if I want to have a baby. I won't let some biological urge tell me that "I must". And I told Him so. I'm not against babies, but to me it's a decision a couple makes - not a decision made because I'm my uterus decided to kick in with the maternal instinct. He was surprised that we didn't have this talk earlier, like on the first date.

That's not my style.

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I'll Tumblr for Ya

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 10:44:48 -0800

I started a Dating LA Tumblr. I don't need another blog, but I think it will motivate me to post a different kind of Dating LA content; more generalized about love and dating, and not as specific to my own dating experiences which I'll keep to this blog.

It's going to be a more artsy Dating LA blog.

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My Thoughts on Work

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 14:44:17 -0800

Marc Johns: Work

http://www.marcjohns.com/blog/2009/11...

Hi, I'm Marc. I've been putting my drawings on the interweb since around October 2006, but I've been drawing since I was tiny. I'm not tiny anymore, but I'm not very big either. All images © 2009 Marc Johns. All Rights Reserved.

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Holiday Plans

nobody@vox.com(Dating LA) — Mon, 23 Nov 2009 13:21:35 -0800

It's the holidays and this year I actually have holiday conflicts. Usually the default is to go home and spend it with my family. Now He's a major player. It's too soon to introduce Him to the folks. I've never introduced any of my boyfriends to my family before, so for me to do that...well, it really means something.

Thanksgiving I'm spending with Him. It just turned out that way. I was planning on going home for Thursday and Friday, but I booked another laser facial Friday. The plan is to spend Wed-Thurs-part of Friday with Him, and head home to recover at home with my parents after the procedure.

We've started talking about our Winter Holiday plans. Not sure what we're doing, but we've thrown around options. Go north again and venture into Napa. Go south and explore my hometown and eat carne asada fries. Or...

Go to Vegas...

Return to the scene of the cryme? I shudder internally at the thought, but wouldn't that be sweet justice and redemption for last year? Of course He doesn't know about the Canadian. He doesn't know the details about any of the dates I've been on. I'd rather keep it that way.

I'd rather forget it ever happened.

So, maybe I do need to do Vegas. For closure. To wipe that city clean (so to speak) for me. What do you think?

Otherwise my vote is for San Diego so I can eat carne asada fries everyday.

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