7 posts tagged “crazy blind date”

So it was with my recent cynical dating/relationship attitude that I went on another Crazy Blind Date tonight. I had forgotten that I signed up for one and I didn't want to cancel it. I think those CBD people keep a running score of how many times you cancel (twice for me) and then set you up with not so great guys as punishment.

That's not to say my date tonight was bad. He was just fine. We talked about geeky stuff, stuff that on first meeting me you would probably never realize I was into.

Yes, I'm a fan of Batman, okay?

But my cynicism underlined our playful conversation. My date said he respected honesty, so I asked him.

Do guys believe in The One? Or do they approach marriage as just another milestone to accomplish at a certain age and whoever's around will be that One?

His response:

Sure, we believe in The One. I definitely wouldn't settle. I don't think settling is a matter of the guy. I think it's an individual preference.

I guess there are some good guys left.

Yet another CBD. I've gone on so many that I really had to think about it.

Four? Yes, four. I've been on four CBDs.

So, this date wasn't anything special. Conversation started off slow. He treated me to drinks and food all night. A real gentleman, nice guy. He asked me what my type was. Seriously, I hate that question.

My type is the type that doesn't ask that question.

I never know how to take that question or how to answer. So, I did the best I could and said that I didn't have a specific type because you can't engineer chemistry. A grocery list of traits will not make me happy.

And more importantly, that guy in my mind is a fantasy.

However, my type is the type to pay for the entire night of food and drink. *wink

Another good date tonight. M290308 gave me the best first date conversation in a long time. Not that physically attractive - he was a bit...greasy. He was very enthusiastic about CBD. He joined the site back in February before it's public beta testing phase. So, I'm pretty sure he's been on many, many, many crazy blind dates. It was kind of a relief because it took the pressure off the date to admit that we used a website to meet and that there wasn't anything more to our meeting.

Like a one-night stand, but without the sex.

One point of the night I had a six degrees of separation moment when M290308 mentioned where he worked.

Him: I work at [place].
Me: Really? I know someone who works there.

I sure do. Stupidjerkfaceassholebastard works there. DK. DK and M290308 work at the same place. And starting next week M290308 will be working on the same movie DK is (or was I don't know if he's still there) working on.

Maybe it was a mistake to mention DK. What if they talk to each other and DK finds out that I've been dating?

HA! If DK really wanted to keep me to himself he would have done more to keep me. I hope he does find out. And I hope M290308 mentions that I've been taking pole dancing classes.

Ha!

HA!

Inspite of all my inner shoutings and wanting to make up excuses to not go on my Crazy Blind Date tonight, I did go. And I had a pretty good time. Compared to the last CBD it was more comfortable and easy. Conversation flowed and there were far less awkward silent pauses.

I think the alcohol helped a lot.

My date did say one thing that peaked my interest. We were talking about our experience with CBD and compatibility when he said, "I don't think it's possible to have compatibility though this site. It's just a shot in the dark."

And there you have it. It's all a crapshoot and we're feeling around blindfolded in the dark for someone who quite possibly isn't there.

At least I had a nice evening out. I probably would have stayed home and...moped or eat salty foods or if I was productive, practiced climbing the pole for Sfactor on Sunday.

I have another CBD tomorrow. Oh, and CBD is taking votes for the next city to be added to CBD. I voted for San Diego since that's my hometown and I might sign up for a date if I visit the 'rents.

Do you ever get moments where you go against your instincts? I'm having one of those right now.

I have two dates set up at the end of the week, Friday and Saturday. Both from Crazy Blind Date. I'm thinking CBD is either a miracle or disaster in the making. Miracle because CBD takes all the work out of online dating and they just pick somebody for you. Disaster because CBD did all the work for me and just picked somebody.

The only reason why I'm sticking with CBD right now is because of laziness.

Do you know how much work goes into online dating? Writing a creative, unique profile for yourself; searching through hundreds of (mis)matches; contacting potentials; reading responses; rejecting losers; getting over the rejection from the "winners" (stupidjerkasshole). Just to start all over again.

It's early in the week. I'm supposed to...start...today.

I blogged too soon. I have a date tonight via Crazy Blind Date. I'll let you know how it goes.

A year ago today I started chronicling my LA dating adventures here. At the time I was trying to get over my Ex and I finally felt ready to flirt, to feel attractive, to have butterflies in my stomach, to be vulnerable again.

A year later nothing has really changed. I actually find myself in a similar situation. I'm not trying to get over anyone, but I feel ready to flirt, to feel attractive, to have butterflies in my stomach, to be vulnerable again.

I reread my entire blog a few days ago and you know, I went through a lot of shit. And I'm still okay. That's what I've learned in the past year. I can date and date and date and date. I'll stumble, trip, and fall. I'll feel the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. And in the end, I'll be just fine.

Because this is my Voxiversary, I wanted to go out on a date, but alas, no date planned. I signed up for a new service called Crazy Blind Date that's supposed to arrange spontaneous dates for you based on your criteria.

I guess they haven't found a match for me.

Goals for this year - try out other alternatives to online dating. I'm going to be speed dating, maybe a lock and key party, even eye gazing. Of course there's the singles cruise, but that's in October.

I'm on the million man march once again.