107 posts tagged “dating”

Last night I had a nightmare about The Canadian. He showed up and started pestering me, begging me to come back and that he loved me all along. I just kept pushing him away and saying, "Get away from me! It's too late."

I know exactly why I dreamt of him too. Because of this. And maybe because around this time last year The Canadian and I were planning our New Year's escape.

I was talking to my stylist about why He stands out from all the other guys I've dated/had a fling with. The most important - He wants to be with me. That's it. In the past I've always been attracted to the guys who, yes, like me but for one reason or another can't be with me. Let's list it out, shall we?

I started a Dating LA Tumblr. I don't need another blog, but I think it will motivate me to post a different kind of Dating LA content; more generalized about love and dating, and not as specific to my own dating experiences which I'll keep to this blog. 

This weekend He and I are taking our first trip together. We're going to San Fransisco to visit His best friend. He considers His best friend His family; He's not close to His mother or sister. I'm very excited to see the city that He loves. Hopefully I can get over this cold by then.

I was thinking the other day how relieved I am in a way to not have to date anymore. Technically I stopped serial dating two years ago, but I'm so glad to not have to go through all that nonsense. Like this Improv Dating Scene event, or all the Meetup events I signed up for last year. Who needs 'em!?

My advice after all my dating adventures - don't do it.

Forget the sites, speed dating, cruises. It might work for a select few, but the averages don't measure up. Go out and enjoy your single life. Enjoy pure, true freedom with yourself. A relationship, even though it can be wonderfully, wonderful, is also another form of baggage.

Release yourselves!

The BFF and his BF were here over the weekend to see the fabulous Kylie Minogue in concert at the Hollywood Bowl. It's her first time touring the States. She was spectacular. On par with Madonna. I'd love to see her in a larger venue next time.

The entire weekend I was away from my...boyfriend. It's so weird to say/type that. I haven't had an official real boyfriend for 3 yrs and to suddenly be in a healthy relationship...it's just strange. Life can change so suddenly. It feels really good to be with someone who really wants to be with me and there's no hang ups, issues, or emotional baggage.

Everyday I find it harder and harder to go without seeing Him. I'm trying to keep a balance though. I've had too many friends just lose themselves completely once they got into a relationship. I still want to be myself and have my life. I want to incorporate Him into my life, not let Him become my life.

He made us official on Facebook. If this isn't a step towards really being official, I don't know what is.

Actually, He did it because this weekend was our first time hanging out with each other in the presence of our mutual friend who introduced us. But it was that awkward moment where He hadn't mentioned to anyone that we were dating, so what do we do? Suddenly embrace and make out and oh, btw, we're dating mutual friend?

No, we decided to play it cool.

But apparently He wasn't subtle enough because the mutual friend asked what was going on between us. Were we gazing into each others' eyes too long? Did she notice how He was touching my leg and trying to hold my hand?

At the end of the night I was teasing Him for not being more upfront with his friend (he's known her longer than I have) in the first place. So, later that evening He asked to go steady...over Facebook.

What a dork.

It's Labor Day weekend and I'm in San Diego with the family. Before I came down yesterday I stopped by His place to visit and get one last kiss in. The next time we'll be together is Monday.

Well, what was meant to be a little detour turned into a 2 hour make out session followed by dinner and then back to His place for...

...

So, now that we've concurred that hurdle, I think I can safely say that things are going well. He's super into me and more and more I find it difficult to be away from Him or to go long periods of time without at least saying, "Hey, what's up? (^_^)"

But for now it's all about me and the family and playing video games! Have a fantastic Labor Day weekend everyone. We all deserve the rest.

Tonight was the third date and the results? Well, I'd say He (I still don't have a nickname for Him) and I are unofficially official.

We went out to dinner. I took Him to this hole in the wall place close to His apartment, but I knew it would be right up His alley since He's a foodie. Afterwards, it was back to His place; I swore to myself that if He didn't make a grand move I was gonna dump His ass. We just talked in His hallway forever until, finally...

He kissed me.

And then from there...we just made out a lot and giggled like we were high school sweethearts. No sex. It's that time for me. Thank goodness for that because it was getting hot and heavy. I'm pretty sure I'd still be at His place right now and naked, instead of at my place getting ready for bed and work in the morning, if it wasn't for my period.

So, that's that. It happened suddenly, but feels very organic. I feel good about this.

We went on our second date already. I usually wouldn't have made such an amateur move, going on a second date the day after the first. However, my friend bailed on my invite to a gallery opening (trying to get a budding artist to join the art scene is harder than you think), and it didn't seem like I would see Him for a while. We're both busy Sunday, this coming weekend is Labor Day and I'll be in San Diego. So, I gritted my teeth and invited Him to the gallery opening.

Now the only reason why I'm making such a big fuss is that I don't want to rush into anything. He seems very taken with me already. I'm still unsure. I don't know what I'm waiting for. I guess I'm waiting for us to be really comfortable with each other. To relax and be ourselves.

I think I'm also waiting for Him to make a big move. One of the downfalls of the feminist movements is that it's made men cowards. They're all confused - should I open the door for them or not? Should I move in for the kiss or wait for permission. I guess I'm an old fashion lady at heart and want to be swept off my feet. So far, He's been a perfect gentleman, but He doesn't have to be.

Just be a man and be honest.

Not sure when our third date will be.