13 posts tagged “first date”

Another good date tonight. M290308 gave me the best first date conversation in a long time. Not that physically attractive - he was a bit...greasy. He was very enthusiastic about CBD. He joined the site back in February before it's public beta testing phase. So, I'm pretty sure he's been on many, many, many crazy blind dates. It was kind of a relief because it took the pressure off the date to admit that we used a website to meet and that there wasn't anything more to our meeting.

Like a one-night stand, but without the sex.

One point of the night I had a six degrees of separation moment when M290308 mentioned where he worked.

Him: I work at [place].
Me: Really? I know someone who works there.

I sure do. Stupidjerkfaceassholebastard works there. DK. DK and M290308 work at the same place. And starting next week M290308 will be working on the same movie DK is (or was I don't know if he's still there) working on.

Maybe it was a mistake to mention DK. What if they talk to each other and DK finds out that I've been dating?

HA! If DK really wanted to keep me to himself he would have done more to keep me. I hope he does find out. And I hope M290308 mentions that I've been taking pole dancing classes.

Ha!

HA!

Inspite of all my inner shoutings and wanting to make up excuses to not go on my Crazy Blind Date tonight, I did go. And I had a pretty good time. Compared to the last CBD it was more comfortable and easy. Conversation flowed and there were far less awkward silent pauses.

I think the alcohol helped a lot.

My date did say one thing that peaked my interest. We were talking about our experience with CBD and compatibility when he said, "I don't think it's possible to have compatibility though this site. It's just a shot in the dark."

And there you have it. It's all a crapshoot and we're feeling around blindfolded in the dark for someone who quite possibly isn't there.

At least I had a nice evening out. I probably would have stayed home and...moped or eat salty foods or if I was productive, practiced climbing the pole for Sfactor on Sunday.

I have another CBD tomorrow. Oh, and CBD is taking votes for the next city to be added to CBD. I voted for San Diego since that's my hometown and I might sign up for a date if I visit the 'rents.

I blogged too soon. I have a date tonight via Crazy Blind Date. I'll let you know how it goes.

Even though we might have common interests, there's still a chance that sparks won't fly.

As was the case with date A280607. Through an exchange of emails we discovered that we are both geeks. Ima geek, youra geek. There must be something here. But there wasn't. I suppose we could build on nothing if we just spent time with each other. That was my friend G's recommendation. But I'm inclined not to listen to the advice of a friend who's been in a 6 year relationship with a guy who has explicitly said that he doesn't want to get married (to her).

They're still together.

I'm letting A289697 decide if he's interested in me enough to pursue me. I, on the other hand, don't care either way and was happy to just enjoy an evening out with someone knew who wasn't completely boring.

Undate H290607 was a blast and not really because the guy (not my type; too much like an older brother), but because of our undate activity. We met for Korean BBQ then headed to a bar/arcade hybrid. We went dutch the whole night, thus making it an undate.

It makes me wonder if a un/date's success is determined partly by what we do on the un/date. If I do something cool and exciting both of us can get out of our shells, let down our guards. Or perhaps the correct strategy is to have the same date plan with each guy and see if we can hold our own.

So, this was the official date with J250607, now known as J270607 - The Serial Responder. We agreed to lunch at a nearby spot (we work in the same area). He was 10 minutes late and inside I was hoping he wouldn't show up at all. I wanted to ditch and go to an art gallery before heading back to work.

He did show up and sadly I found out that I was taller than him with my heels on and you know how I don't like short men.

I could have overlooked (haha) the height issue, but I can't ignore that the guy was boring. Sometimes you go on a date and just don't click, but you have to sit through an entire meal and try to make conversation. Serial Responder supposedly has a lot of things going for him, but perhaps this is a case of his interests don't interest me and vice versa. He invited me to hang out with him and his friends over the weekend.

Sure, sounds great.

I promptly returned to work and blocked his name from my buddy list. I'm just not that interested.

Finally met Yogurt Boy last night. We met briefly for coffee. He was actually more interesting in person. A bit of a frat boy - too into going to the gym. On his profile he wrote that he "takes supplements." That's the equivalent of me writing "I'm on the pill."

But our date was cut short. DK decided to resurface.

Ugh. What is with this guy? And why am I so stuck on him?!

I don't know readers. Twice (1, 2) I've declared that I'm going to give this guy up. Why is this so hard for me to do? I feel like a flake and I can't follow through. I'm frustrated with myself. I really, really want to stop.

But I don't.

DK is my Mr. Big. He's under my skin. I have moments when I get insecure and start doubting myself, my feelings, his feelings. I go over every inch of our conversations and time together trying to piece together how he feels about me. I'm just like Carrie. I'm completely over analyzing.

And what was Mr. Big's response when Carrie asked him for a relationship status report. "I have to do things on my own time." That's what DK is doing. I can't force people to fit into my agenda.

What does a girl do when the guy she was seeing suddenly disappears?

She dates a new guy.

I'm back at it. Tonight I had a date with M120507. We've chatted briefly on and off, but never got around to setting a date. I wasn't too excited to meet him. I knew right away he was into me. When a guy is attracted to you, he gets "the eyes". It's an ogling, as if he's gazing upon greatness. This would have been alright if I was attracted to him, but he didn't quite live up to his photo.

I also knew he was into me because he kept dragging out the date. Do you want to get dinner? What do you want to do next?

I have a party to go to.

Not really. I just wanted the date to end. Honestly, this guy had no chance of winning me over. I'm just not in the right place to let another guy in, but I had to get out there. I can't, I won't let one dating stumble trip me up forever.

I cheated on D200407. I made plans to meet R220407 earlier this week for brunch and I didn't want to break it suddenly because I really wanted to eat brunch.

Yes, I'm that hungry.

But perhaps I should have canceled the date because R220407 turned out to be very sheltered. At 35 if you don't know what the number 420 represents then there can't be any future between us. Not to mention the guy's worked at the same company since graduating college. That's 15 years with no ambitions or goals. We're just from different worlds and I don't see myself with a guy who settled too early in life. The complete opposite of D200407.

Are you going to tell D200407 about the other guy?

No. Well, I don't know. What purpose would it serve?

I'm supposed to see D200407 tonight. I really want to see him.

Number 1 rule of dating - never have sex on the first date.

Says who?

That was D200407's response this morning as we lay in bed.

I had sex with someone on the first date.

A little back story on D200407 - we've emailed a couple times and Wednesday night spoke on the phone for the first time. Our conversation lasted almost 4 hours. We decided to go out Friday for drinks, but had no solid gameplan. A spontaneous idea to head out to Manhattan Beach took us to Hermosa Beach (we missed a turn). After that we went to Koreatown where he was going to show me a hidden bar, but somehow we ended up at his place and, well readers, there you have it.

Did I tell you that I can't hold my liquor?

It's not good to have sex on a first date.

Says who?

People, that's who. Now I seem easy. Or he's the easy one and I took advantage of him. Or maybe we were both drunk and horny. Who knows. I invited him out on Sunday, so I'll see if there's really something there or if it'll fizzle out.

I have a date tonight with R190407. I've still got it! Check back tomorrow for a full report.

Question: Can I take a guy seriously when his screenname reads out "white trash"?

The date went well. A last minute change in plans meant he came to my turf. We had a few drinks (he treated), talked, then parted on a hug and a "let's hang out again," whatever that really means.

R190407 reminded me of this guy with whom I had a fling. And when I inquired about his screenname reference (yes, I went there), I learned that all his friends are Asian.

So, you're like the token white guy.

Or an Asia-phile.