10 posts tagged “qotd”

What's the worst way you've ever been broken up with?

Hmm. I think over the phone is pretty bad, but then it was a long distance relationship.

I think the worst way ever is to not break up with me. As in just disappear like DK did. When you break up hopefully you say all you have to say and then that's it. When you just disappear you don't have any closure.

Openly keep, store away, or toss completely? What do you think should be done with past gifts from old flames after you've broken up and are with someone new?
Submitted by miy6ko.

Hmmm...I don't have many gifts from previous boyfriends. CG gave me a t-shirt and I still have that but never wear it. DK gave me the STD so I'll always have that. And for people who have followed my exploits with DK from the beginning - the STD hasn't come back. Looks like I'm in the clear!

Not really on the gift track, but a little related. I don't have photos of me with my boyfriends. I don't even have just a photo of them. Well, I do have pictures I snuck of them with my cellphone, but not a legitimate photo.

Maybe some relationships are better left without evidence of its existance

What have you lost that you wish you could get back?
Submitted by, Witch Hazel

I'm answering this because Witch Hazel submitted it.

I wish I could get back my faith in love, the hope and the joy in just the possibilities. I lost all of that with DK because I thought I had found what I was looking for. It probably sounds stupid and my friends have told me so. "You didn't know him long enough to really know him..."

Blah. Blah. Blah.

I don't care how long I've known someone. Sometimes you just meet someone and you connect. I've known people for ages, like all my life even, and I'll never be close to them. How come it can't be the other way around? I met someone and it had the ease and comfort that you see in all those movies or eHarmony commercials. I'm not allowed to have those moments, too?

I will say this once and for all - none of you really know what happened between me and DK, but me and DK.

So, shut it.

It's over and I'm slowly putting myself back together. The end.

What question do you hate being asked?

After talking to some guy at some place...

Why are you still single?

or

Why would [your boyfriend] dump you?

How am I supposed to answer these questions?

Carrie Underwood and Chace Crawford broke up via text message. What do you think: Would you ever break-up with someone by sending a text or email?

Have you ever been on either end of an unrequited love? 
Submitted by 怒涛の鮫.

I've been on both ends. I was the object of love for Stalker. It was difficult not only because he was stalking me, but because I just couldn't make him understand that I just wasn't that into him. He couldn't accept how I felt and that alone means we're not compatible.

In my world, if you love someone you want them to be happy, even if their happiness means having nothing to do with you. Sometimes the best thing you can give to someone you love is freedom, and to give them up.

And so that's why, on some level, I can understand when someone isn't into me - because I've been on the other end. It doesn't hurt any less. I cry; I pine for DK, but what can I do? He doesn't want me, and the best thing I can do for myself and for the man I could have possibly loved the most in my entire life - give him up and not give him grief about it.

How old were you when you had your very first boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you still know them now? 
Submitted by KIM. 

My first boyfriend was DP in high school. We shared the same birthday and he was/is totally gay.

But this QotD is about the first crush. I went back, back into my childhood. Then I realized - my first crush's name was D, the same name as DK and Mr. F Buddy. And childhood D is the same nationality as DK - Korean.

Must stay away from Korean guys named D. They'll use me and break my heart.

Childhood D lived across the street and I stayed at his house after school until my parents came home. He played the violin and I would watch his mom make kimchi so I could tell my mom how to make it (Mom's little spy). One day we were in the bathroom together and I showed him my boobs. I had none at the time; I was five. He thought it was gross.

Stay away from Korean guys named D. I'll inadvertently show them my boobs.

People do many different things to cope with stress, loss, and "bumps in the road". How do you handle stress and hard times? 
Submitted by RedlyGal. 

Depending on the origin of the stress I'm a (in no particular order):

1. Gym-aholic
2. Alcoholic
3. Food-aholic
4. Cry-aholic
5. Karaoke/Sing-aholic
6. Bitch-aholic
7. Sleep-aholic
8. Workaholic

Right now I'm 3, 4 and 7 with a touch of 6. I'm refocusing to be more 1 and 5.

Tell us a true story that proves it really is a small world after all. 
Submitted by havybeaks.

This is a story about a man. My favorite kind of man. A gay man.

I had a friend in college, RF, who I ran into a year after graduation. We had not kept in touch, but I was so happy to see him and I was introduced to his boyfriend. His boyfriend looked familiar and he said the same of me.

Me: What's your name?
Him: ED
Me: Oh, you do know me. Remember XX Middle School.
Him: OMG!

So, RF was dating a former junior high school classmate of mine. I was his teacher aide.

What are your deal breakers in a relationship?

Since this is Dating LA, I'm going to write about "that" kind of relationship and not general relationships. I have friendship deal breakers, you know.

My "first impression" deal breakers are:

1. Too short
2. Too old (more than 5 years) or too young (more than 2 years) younger than me period.
3. Too muscular or too skinny
4. Creepy, Asia-phile pervert

Here are my deal breakers with persistant exposure:

1. Stupidity - I'm not stupid, so please be smart.
2. Unambitious - Have a goal. It's okay if you take a tumble, but have a plan to get back on your feet.
3. Anti risk-taker - I'm adventurous. I don't need to be shackled to someone who won't try anything new.
4. Arrogant, egomaniac
5. Excessive sarcism - See date N310307
6. Excessive anger, bitching, criticism - I don't sweat the small stuff. Sometimes my ex CG would get pissed off at the tiniest things, then he'd get pissed at me for not getting pissed too. Or when all a guy can do is just bitch, bitch, bitch. Ugh. Can a guy like that ever be happy?
7. Party pooper - whatever the reason: selfconscious, depressed, shy. Cut it out. You're ruining my parade.